SHARE YOUR STORY
Your experience matters. Your voice can change someone else’s life.
Every man who reads this site and thinks “that’s me” needs to know he’s not the only one. The statistics prove he’s not alone — but statistics don’t sit across from you and say “I know exactly what that feels like.”
Stories do.
We’re collecting anonymous stories from men who have experienced intimate partner violence — men who are still in it, men who’ve left, and men who are somewhere in between. Your story may be published on this site to help other men recognize what’s happening to them and find the courage to act.
You don’t have to use your real name. You don’t have to share anything you’re not comfortable with. You control the narrative — because for once, someone is asking you to tell it.
What to Share
You can write as much or as little as you want. There’s no wrong way to tell your story. But if it helps to have a starting point, here are some things to consider:
- What was the abuse like? (physical, emotional, financial, legal, sexual — whatever applies)
- When did you first realize something was wrong?
- Did you tell anyone? What happened when you did?
- Did you seek help from any system — police, hotline, shelter, therapist, clergy? How were you treated?
- If you left, what was that process like? If you haven’t left, what’s keeping you?
- What do you wish someone had told you earlier?
- What would you say to a man who is where you were?
Your story will be reviewed before publication. We may edit for length and clarity, but we will never change your meaning. If selected for publication, we’ll reach out to confirm before anything goes live.
Before you submit: If your partner monitors your devices, please review our Immediate Safety page first. Use a private browser window or a device she cannot access. Your safety comes before your story.
What Happens After You Submit
- Your submission goes into a private, secure system. Only the site founder reviews submissions.
- Your real name is never published unless you specifically request it.
- If your story is selected for the site, we’ll contact you at the email you provide to confirm before publishing.
- We may edit for length and clarity, but your words and your meaning are always preserved.
- If you’d rather your story remain private — if you just need to say it out loud to someone — that’s okay too. Check the “private” box on the form and it stays between us.
Break the Silence
For years, maybe decades, you’ve carried this alone. You’ve told yourself no one would understand, no one would believe you, and no one would care.
You were wrong on all three counts.
The men who will read your story are going through what you went through. They need to hear from someone who gets it — not a researcher, not a website, not a statistic. A man. Like them.
Your story is the thing that makes another man realize he’s not crazy. That’s worth telling.