MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE
SILENCE ISN’T STRENGTH
You are not alone. You are not weak. And what’s happening to you has a name.
This site exists for men who are being abused by their partners — and for everyone who wants to help them.
Heroes – Not Survivors
The standard is to call those impacted by domestic abuse survivors – not victims. But being a survivor simply means staying alive. We think breaking the cycle of abuse takes action, and that anyone who escaped is a hero, not just a survivor – especially men. In a world stacked against you, saving yourself and your family from an abuser takes courage, and that makes you a hero.
WHO THIS SITE IS FOR
Male “Heroes”
Screening tools, safety planning, legal guidance, healing resources, and stories from men who’ve walked this road. You’re not the first. You won’t be the last.
Mental Health Pros
Clinical guidance on screening, presentation differences, reactive abuse assessment, and how to avoid the mistakes other systems make.
Medical Professionals
You’ve see them in your emergency room, but they have cuts not bruises. Learn to recognize the signs of male IPV victims in your ER.
Lawmakers
Develop effective laws with the inclusivity review, funding gap analysis, and model legislation for gender-inclusive domestic violence protections.
Clergy & Faith Leaders
Pastoral guidance on recognizing abuse, avoiding the advice that keeps men trapped, and offering real help — not just a prayer and a platitude.
Friends & Family
How to recognize the signs, how to listen without judgment, and how to support a man you suspect is being abused — without pushing him away.
DV Shelters & Services
Intake audits, trauma-informed care for men, and tools to make your organization more inclusive for male survivors seeking help and services.
Law Enforcement
Primary aggressor identification, dual arrest prevention, and evidence collection guides designed to professionalize the response to male victims.
Employers & HR
He’s at work right now — hiding it. How to recognize the signs, respond with support, and build workplace policies that protect all victims of DV.
Researchers
Stats don’t lie. Learn how the old idea that men cannot be victims of IPV is a false narrative. All statistics are backed by peer-reviewed research.
64% of men who contacted DV hotlines were told:
“We only help women.”
YOU’RE NOT A VICTIM. YOU’RE MORE THAN A SURVIVOR.
YOU’RE A HERO.
How can we change the narrative?
Pushing back against the narrative that domestic violence is a female problem is a systemic issue. The goal is to provide more resources to men without taking away any resources for women. Changes must be made by lawmakers, law enforcement, and anyone providing domestic violence services.
We need more “Heroes” to share their stories of escaping female-perpetrated domestic violence. Are you willing to share your story?
(All stories can be shared anonymously.)